A shoe on the side of the highway. Just one. Not two.

A friend of mine commented on how he feels this world is meant for couples, where most activities seem to be a "members only" type of a thing. You know, a club where all its members must have a date. So I began thinking. I thought about all the events I have been to this last month and none of them required a date.

Let's start with the Naked Bike Ride. I did not have a date to this event and most of the people I met on the ride were single. They weren't all men either. I spent a good chunk of the night talking to a single girl I met after the ride about the dating pool in St. Louis. She was a cute, smart girl that wanted someone to cuddle with. Later on, I saw her chatting with a fella’. Maybe she isn’t single anymore…

A few weeks later I attended the FBC(Fucking Bike Club) Ride and honestly, I didn’t see any couples there. I went with a friend who spent the night talking to a few girls and he even got their numbers. Everyone was super friendly and sure, they were there to ride bikes, but they were also there to meet new people.

Last weekend I attended an Art Exhibit/giant house party. Again, I did not have a date and met a lot of single people there. It appeared that half the crowd was simply looking to talk to others, find new friends or lovers. It's all about reaching out and deciding to just talk to a stranger for the night. Get rejected? Talk to another one. And another. And yes, another!

Last night, there was live music in the Botanical Gardens and lots of people. Once again, I was dateless and I was enveloped by single people wanting to connect and meet their soul mate. This world may be focused on finding a mate but fortunately it is set up in such a way so you can do just that. Maybe people would have more luck finding a mate if they talked to one another instead of shyly glancing at each other from across the street, secretly wanting to dance while they stand alone on the dance floor or quietly sit on a music filled lawn at the Botanical Gardens.

Let me note that I'm guilty of standing on the sidelines while others dance and converse. I am guilty of retreating to my safe little bubble and then complaining later on how hard it is to meet people. If you can step outside your comfort zone and put yourself out there I know there are hundreds of people just waiting to meet someone new.